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Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Hiroshima & Miyajima

Our crew has been traveling a bit. We just left Kyoto and headed west to Hiroshima on the fabulous Shinkansen. I could get used to traveling this way!  The train station is impeccably clean and safe. Once you go through the 'turn stalls' there is a 'waiting room' where you can watch local TV (clearly not too helpful for this English- speaking American, though it's strangely 
entertaining.) or you can watch the board for information regarding your train. 
We have never had a train be late in Japan. Not once.  I hear it does happen, but we have not had that issue. We all really enjoy the train stations. I enjoy the shopping and people watching. Everyone else likes the trains and finding out where to go next. Go figure! 

On the road train again....The seats on the Shinkansen are comfy and large enough for even our big crew. The train is remarkably quiet. There are bento boxes- adult and kids versions- available for purchase. Who wouldn't want to eat those adore things?!? Please don't ask me what is in there. I have no idea. The food is good though and we eat well.


We arrived in the gorgeous 'river city'. Yes, Hiroshima is clearly a city with a tough history. However, we wanted to see some fun stuff first. 

Explaining to our young children all about World War II and the atomic bomb was going to be tough. We decided to save that for the next day. Delaying gave us a chance to catch our breath and enjoy our first stop.

Hiroshima sits on a breathtaking bay. It is known for the amazing views and rivers throughout the city. It is a town of about 2.5 miliion people. It's climate is close to that of North Carolina. Hiroshima is respected for it's education, cultural events and yearly Peace Summit. 

Enough background, time to get our tourist on. Our first outing was to the Itsukushima, which is more commonly known as "Miyajima" or the 'shrine island'.

In order to get to Miyajima we had to take another short train ride and then hop on a ferry. (The kids are going to know every single type of transportation in Japan when we finish our tour here!) 


Most people recognize
 Miyajima for its "floating" torii gate. The floating torii is the third most 'recognizable' symbol of Japan. (How do they figure that stuff out?) It is said to have been built to honor three female sisters, who became deities of the water, tides and sea life. 

The torii was first built in the 6th century. Wow, that was a LONG time ago! It has been repaired/ replaced several times since then. This sea is affected by strong tidesMost of the year the torii is sitting on island mud.  At low tide, the bottom of the sea is exposed. At high tide, the sea covers all the previously exposed mud and fills the areas underneath the shrine. To view the torii floating is considered such a blessing that there are online maps to predict the days you should visit. We didn't consider any of that. We had to travel when we did. It was pretty cool that it was floating when we were there though. We were "blessed". I'll take it :)



The island of Itsukushima is considered a sacred place. This is a very serious belief. No one is allowed to give birth or die on the island. If a woman is pregnant and close to her due date she has to return to the mainland. If someone is eldery and feeling poorly, they have to return to the mainland. Talk about pressure! You are not allowed to cut down trees or encroach on nature in any way. 


Deer and monkeys roam freely on the island.(The monkeys must have been on vacation when we were there. We didn't see a single one.)  Deer are thought of as sacred in the native Shinto religion because they are considered messengers of the gods. They walk the streets of the city, not afraid of the tourists. Actually, the deer are not afraid of anything! Look at this one we caught trying to get into a restaurant! He kept trying to push the 'open' button with his nose. Poor guy didn't understand why the people inside where holding the doors closed. 

AJ just had to take selfie with some of the deer. It looked like the deer was actually posing! (We didn't touch the deer or feel threatened by them, in case you were wondering.) There were- no joke- probably 75 of them roaming around as we toured the island. It's a little weird. They walk around the tourist and don't seem to bother the many open shops. (The shopping here is similar to most of Japan. It is long rows of three sided buildings with a large garage door-like side that faces the street. When you go from shop to shop you never have to open a door, because the shops are all 'outside'.) 

What is your town 'known for'? This town has a unique claim to fame. The "shamoji", or "rice paddle" in our house, is a style of wooden spoon used to serve cooked rice without impairing the taste. It is said to have been invented by a monk who lived on the island. The shamoji is a popular souvenir- we should know since we bought a tiny one for our Christmas tree. Here is the world's largest Shamoji. Don't say you never saw anything nutty on my blog!

Being a tourist destination there is bound to  be a Hello Kitty store. (Don't ask me about the whole she is really a girl, not a cat thing. I don't get it.) This Hello Kitty had some of the elements of Miyajima: the Torii, the rice paddle and the bell from the shrine. Carson was taking this shot, so hubby took the 'artistic version' with us gals looking away. Whatever. I have a picture. I'm happy.
Here's the little miss with ALL of the elements of Miyajima Island: The Torii, the rice paddle, the deer and dressed in the traditional clothes of the Emperor who established the sacred island. 

She wanted to know what kind of warrior would wear flip flops into battle. I didn't have an answer for that one! Anyone have a clue?

We enjoyed our afternoon on the island. It was a really relaxed, easy way to learn about Japan. Plus, where else will we get to have bacon wrapped, fried lotus flower and fried asparagus with cheese? You never know what you are ordering when you can't read the menu!


We got back on the ferry, to the train, to the hotel. We fed the troops and retired to our rooms exhausted. Well, wouldn't you know it? The kids weren't that tired. They were excited to find the famous "hotel shirts & slippers" we had been hearing about. All the hotels have their own version. The minute they saw the nightshirts and matching slippers, they just had to see why the Japanese loved those things so much. What ensued was a good 30 minutes of nightshirt wearing, picture tasking goofiness. Oh to be young and silly. Wait, I am!
The next day was going to be a doozie. We had all day to tour Hiroshima's historical sites before we got on the late train back to Tokyo. 

We started out the day by telling the truth of war, as best we could, to our military brats. 

We believe in honest conversation. We knew the museum would have pictures and stories that our young kids would be bothered by. Here is the jest of what we said. 

"Countries do things in war that have to be done in order to end the war. People get hurt. Children get hurt. Innocent people die. It sucks.(We never say this word in our house. This was said to enforce how strongly we feel about the subject.)  In the end sometimes the only way to have peace is to face war. "

Then, we gathered our kids and went to one of the most well-done museums I have ever seen. 

Welcome to Hiroshima, Japan.


Walk with me. See what I saw. 

The museum is quiet. You don't hear another soul.  You are forced, due to the small space, to take a solo walk down a long and windy hall. 

For the first 45 steps or so you don't see anything except the walkway. 

It is silent, and hallow. 



Then you come upon the first plaque. It sets the tone for the entire interaction to come. 


I had to pause. Did I read that correctly? I read it again. 

Japan- in it's own museum, in it's own country- just took part of the blame for the tragic history of this town. I was in awe. 

I have been to many, many museums. I have been to Dachu, seen Auschwitz, stood silently at the World Trade Centers, Oklahoma City Memorial, even the Aggie Bonfire Memorial just to name a few. For some reason the tone that was set by this simple plaque touched me. I'm not exactly sure why, but it is a different feel. 

You continue to walk around the circle and read a few more plaques. Then you round the corner to a massive diorama.



On Monday, August 6, 1945, at 8:15 a.m., the nuclear bomb "Little Boy" was dropped on Hiroshima by an American B-29 bomber, the Enola Gay, directly killing an estimated 80,000 people. Within the next few months, another 80,000 people died. The city's population at this point was about 350,000. That means half the city perished in a matter of five months.  At least those are the numbers the Japanese believe perished. A strange effect of blowing up the town was all the records were destroyed, whole families perished and diseases never seen before were taking the lives of people faster than the survivors could keep track of. 


The bomb exploded about 2,000 feet above the city. The famous mushroom cloud soared up to over 40,000 feet before returned it's poison to the ground. For comparison's sake, most commercial airlines fly at about 30,000 feet. Anyone outside within 3 miles of the blast was said to be 'instantly vaporized'. The image on the left is where a person was sitting on the steps of the Hiroshima bank. There was nothing left of the person. Not ash or clothes. The temperature at the time of the blast was said to be about 1500 degrees F for approximately 2 seconds. 

92 % of the buildings with 4 miles were incinerated instantly. Some of the reinforced concrete buildings were of a far stronger construction than is required by normal standards in America, because of the earthquake danger in Japan. This exceptionally strong construction explained why the framework of some of the buildings in the center of  the city did not collapse. The concrete buildings were only shells though, their insides instantly burned or collapsed killing all inside. This phenomenon explains the most famous surviving building, the "A-Bomb Dome". 

Those who lived through the initial blast were in various stages of injury and shock. 94% of the doctors in Hiroshima died the day of the bombing. They had been in town for a training session and were very close to the epicenter. The lack of doctors left those who did survive without anyone with medical knowledge to help them. 

The survivors were tested again when 20 minutes after the explosion the typical summer rains started. Only this time the rain was different. It was called 'black rain'. The 'black rain' reached ground level as sticky, dark, dangerously radioactive water. It not only stained skin, clothing, and buildings, but also was ingested by breathing and by consumption of contaminated food or water, causing radiation poisoning. The picture is from a building 7 miles from the epicenter with the stains of black rain running down the wall.

Inside the museum, there is a circular shaped room that is covered with 140,000 tiny tiles. The tiles are each only 2 inches square and show the remaining town of Hiroshima. Each tile represents one life lost due to the atomic bomb. It is an overwhelming eerie and heartbreaking display.




The sickness and death would last for not just days or months, but years. The most well known story is perhaps that of Sadako Sasaki. Sadako was 2 years old when the atomic bomb was dropped near her home. She was at home when the explosion occurred, about one mile from Ground Zero.  She survived the initial explosion. Ten years later, when Sadako was 12 she developed swellings on her neck and behind her ears. Purple spots formed on her legs. She was diagnosed with leukemia (her mother referred to it as "an atom bomb disease" since so many of the survivors developed this condition). 

Sadako spent her time in the hospital folding origami paper cranes. She was inspired to do so by the Japanese legend says the person who "created 1,000 origami cranes would be granted a wish". She spent months on end folding cranes. Her wish was simply to live. 

Sadako died on 25 October 1955.

In 1958, a statue of Sadako holding a golden crane was unveiled in the Hiroshima Peace Memorial. At the foot of the statue a plaque reads: "This is our cry. This is our prayer. Peace on Earth." You can see the cases behind the statue that holds just a small portion of the paper cranes that are still collected each year. On the right, an up close image of the tiny paper origami  cranes. These are about the size of an American dime. They are combined with other cranes to make incredible pictures. 

Her older brother Masahiro Sasaki, who speaks on his sister's life at events, says Sadako died having folded approximately 1,300 paper cranes. Mr. Sasaki and the family have donated some of Sadako's cranes at places of importance around the world at Pearl Harbor, Hawaii and in NYC at the 9-11 memorial. I know because years ago when I was working with wounded warriors I walked under 1,000 paper cranes at that same 9-11 memorial. Being in Hiroshima now is like making a full circle to me. What an blessing to see these pieces of art on two continents. 

Paper cranes from all the world still pour into Hiroshima. They can be seen throughout the country at shrines and temples everywhere. The simple paper crane is seen as a wish for peace and a prayer for longevity. 

On the peaceful grounds of the Museum complex burns an eternal flame. The flame will burn "until the last atomic weapon has been destroyed and the threat of atomic warfare no longer exists." Above the flame, there is an arc that hold the ashes of survivors who died in the years following the bombing. When you look from the museum, through the arc, you see the flame and then the A-Bomb Dome. It is striking. 



We walked away from the museum with heavy hearts and tons of questions. 

Some of the questions we can answer. 

"Why was Hiroshima chosen?"

Hiroshima was selected for a bomb site for many reasons. It was was a city of considerable military importance. It contained the 2nd Army Headquarters, which commanded the defense of all of southern Japan. Also, Hiroshima was a communications center, a storage point, and an assembly area for troops. It held a military manufacturing center that was considered key to the success of the Japanese. 


"Could it happen again?"

 Yes, it could happen again. This graph was updated in the museum, but my picture did not turn out. These were the figures in 2011. 

"Why do people want to remember such horrible things?" 

There are over 1.5 million visitors to the Hiroshima Peace Museum every year. Only 200,000 visitors are foreigners. The vast majority of visitors are Japanese. We visit to remember. We visit so we never forget, and our children's children never forget. For we know,  'those who forget history and are doomed to repeat it'.

"Will we offend the Japanese by visiting the site of so much death and destruction?"

They visit Pearl Harbor. The Japanese did that to Americans. They brought the war to our country and we still let them visit Pearl Harbor. We are not offended when they visit Pearl Harbor. 

"Does that mean we still don't like each other?"

Well, everyone has a right to think what they want to think. We "like" the Japanese and they "like" us-- officially. We, as a family, adore Japan and it's amazing people. We honor the fallen by repairing our differences daily as we make new friends with the local Japanese. 

Some of the questions we could simply not answer. 

"Mom, why did it happen?"

War is brutal. It doesn't care the age of it's victim, or discriminate based on race. War is living hell.

I don't think our older children will ever forget the images, sights and sounds they saw in Hiroshima. I know I won't forget. Ever.

I combined this museum with our lighter visit to Miyajima on purpose. 

You see, life has moved on. 

Friendships have been forged. 

The Japanese are not only our allies, they are looking to the future with us as their partners. 

They want peace more than anyone else I have ever met. 

Now my children understand the "silly" hand gesture every Japanese make when they have their pictures made. We see this gesture all over Japan, by all ages of Japanese.

Peace. 

How fitting. 



Peace be with you my Friends,
~Aggie Amy

Thursday, December 4, 2014

Kentucky = Christmas

 Wait until you hear what Japan's version of Christmas!

This country is a true marketer's DREAMLAND!

The Huffington Post explains the story like this,

"It’s Christmas Eve in Japan. Little boys and girls pull on their coats, the twinkle of anticipation in their eyes. Keeping the tradition alive, they will trek with their families to feast at … the popular American fast food chain KFC.


Christmas isn’t a national holiday in Japan—only one percent of the Japanese population is estimated to be Christian—yet a bucket of “Christmas Chicken” (the next best thing to turkey—a meat you can’t find anywhere in Japan) is the go-to meal on the big day. And it’s all thanks to the insanely successful “Kurisumasu ni wa kentakkii!” (Kentucky for Christmas!) marketing campaign in 1974.
When a group of foreigners couldn’t find turkey on Christmas day and opted for fried chicken instead, the company saw this as a prime commercial opportunity and launched its first Christmas meal that year: Chicken and wine for 2,920 yen (at that time about $10)—pretty pricey for the mid-seventies. Today the christmas chicken dinner (which now boasts cake and champagne) goes for about 3,990 yen ($40)."
We had heard the story, but thought it must be overblown. Well, it's NOT!

We quickly realized how popular KFC was. It is the ONLY drive thru we have seen in all of Japan. However, it doesn't usually look crowded and the prices are about 20 % higher than the US. (That is the typical amount of mark up around here.)

The second week of OCTOBER our local KFC started putting up their Christmas decorations. Here is COL Sanders himself with the kiddos staring into the sun. (Read: not happy with Momma, but trying to please her.)



There are several options available for purchase but they all MUST be pre-ordered by December 10th! That gives KFC enough time to ship, prep, pack and hire seasonal help for each store. 

The options look like this:



As you can see there are a few choices sold as "sets". You can also add on more chicken or sides. The large "Roastiessee" chicken that you can pick up everyday from the grocery store in the US sells for almost $60!  Now, back home that same size chicken is $6, all day, everyday. Here in Japan though this type of chicken is just not available.


The Christmas holiday in Japan goes like this: 

Take down the Halloween decor.
Totally ignore that really weird holiday called "Thanksgiving".
Order your KFC holiday meal. 
Wait two more weeks and then:
Break out the tinsel, put up the tree picture of that tree, layer on the lights hang up some window clings and cue the Christmas carols.

Ignore the true reason for Christmas. Forget about the precious child born that night. Put some blinders on to the King of Kings born in that stable to a virgin, whom Wise Men walked miles to worship. 

If only 1% of all of Japan celebrates Christmas for the true reasons, then those of us who KNOW the True King have a lot of work to do.

So, I won't ask you what you will be eating for Christmas.

Maybe turkey, ham, KFC or -our family's favorite- chicken enchiladas. 

Instead, I will ask you what are you DOING to spread God's love this holiday season? 

Write a note to all those people who serve you throughout the year: mailmen, coffee barista, dentist, nail tech, vet... anyone. Invite them to your local church service. Offer them a place at your dinner table. Give them your time.

We all need a little love. We are desire real friends, not just those people you see once and awhile. Real friends are friends who keep us grounded, who tell us the truth and who push us towards the Lord.

Merry Christmas to you & yours!

Whatever you eat...


Come Let Us Adore Him,
~Aggie Amy



Friday, October 31, 2014

Halloween for ALL in Japan

Wow! The Japanese are obsessed with most American holidays. I get it.


Still, I am shocked by how much they LOVE Halloween!  It is everywhere!  From restaurants to grocery stores, to people's cars and even ads. Way past what we even do in the US!

Here are a few pics from the local area of Nippon's latest craze.

The McDonald's in Japan goes all out for Halloween. The have a black "witch" burger and a white "ghost" chicken sandwich. The black burger has a soy and teriyaki sauce with nacho cheese on a black bun. The chicken sandwich has a white cheese and mayo on a white bun. Both are, surprisingly, tasty. (We don't really eat at McD's in the States. However, when you are overseas it is nice to have 'normal' fries and 'real' coke. It is not high brow, but it is as American as it comes.)

Kentucky Friend Chicken, or KFC to the kids and me, also gets in the Halloween action. They have a special 'Trick or Treat' bucket that is only offered the week of Halloween.  Good Ol' Colonel Sanders even wears a black witch's hat in the advertisement.  Yes, it is 1850 Yen, or $18.50, for six small pieces of chicken, two biscuits with honey sauce and two tiny fries. For a few dollars more you can have a tiny drink. This is why we carry water.

I don't even like Halloween. But, still the Japanese try hard to find a way to make Halloween "kawaii" (Ka-why-e) which means "cute" or "adorable".

Here is the local grocery store. They have a pretty good size selection of seasonal treats. There are pumpkin flavored Pocky, Milky chocolate in Halloween packages and cookies individually wrapped to be given out for Trick or Treating. By far, our favorite Fall treat has been pumpkin Kit Kat. It sounds gross. I don't even like pumpkin, but these sweets are a subtle spice cookie covered in white chocolate. We can't taste pumpkin at all.


There are small costumes everywhere! Mainly just capes, but they are everywhere! The costumes don't seem to be limited to young kids. Everyone gets in on the fun around Tokyo.

Ziploc puts out special containers this time of year as well. They just have to have Mickey Mouse printed on them. Mickey is everywhere here! That's what makes them adorable!

As you drive around town you see that most stores have some sort of Halloween decoration. You have to go so painfully.slow that you can study every business. Seriously, I go weeks on end without my car hitting FOURTY miles per hour! Weeks. It is NUTS!

Anyway, our local car dealer had a HUGE cutout of a large, white woman dressed as a witch. Our kids laughed at her every time we passed that store. I tried to convince them to let me take them inside to have their picture made with her. They were having nothing to do with it! They were nervous we would look like goof balls. Like that EVER happens!

The Crew is always trying to find a new toy or cool candy. Here they are discovering that Japan carries knock-off German kinder eggs! In Japan, the kinder eggs are called "Choco Eggs". The eggs are filled with Pokemon and Super Mario characters. Fun for my four!


 On Halloween night we got a group of families together for BBQ. That is how we roll on military posts. We party and enjoy each other's company before we 'improve international relationships'. How do we do that? Well, we let the locals enjoy some of an American tradition.  We had heard that there would be a LOT of Japanese children. Well, we heard wrong. There were hundreds- literally- over 700 Japanese kids who came through our little area. We were shocked! Each child would individually ask us, "Trick or Treat?". We would offer the kid a piece of candy and they would say, "Thank you" before they would move on to the next bucket of candy.  Several of the children gave US treats when we gave them candy. Typical "gift-for-gift" Japanese style.

The Japanese kids were incredibly polite. They were intimidated if there were American kids being loud or with scary masks. Most of the American children really behaved themselves. My kiddos did a quick trip around post and then returned early to 'help me' hand out candy. The boys ended up taking over and handing out all candy for over two hours. They loved it! They keep talking about how sweet, kind and quiet the locals are.


I hope you enjoyed your Halloween. Whether or not you 'celebrate' the holiday, and that is a topic for another day, it was a fun way for this family to spend some time with the locals.

By the way if you need any candy for the next few years... we are swimming in the stuff!!!

Lost in lollipops & ditching the Dots,
~Aggie Amy








Friday, October 3, 2014

My Jersey Boy's Birthday

I was going to write about the new Burger King Black Burger today.

I also wanted to tell you about a random meeting with some local women.

None of that is going to happen in this entry. I decided to share a bit of my crazy life instead.

I know, it's weird. It's just the way I am. Love me or hate me, either way I'm still me.

Today I am going to tell you about the love of my life and the horrible, no good, very bad gift giver that I am.

I try but I have never been a good gift giver. My husband is a wonderful gift giver! I love that! I can mention that I liked something, or even look just-a-tad too long at something in the store and a few days later it will appear. I have to be careful not to ask for something I don't really want ;)

It is very difficult to find a true gift for your spouse after you have been together for years.


I mean we share a bank account, so it's not like I can ever really surprise him.

I am always on the hunt for a new idea to show him my love.

If I am being totally blunt, my hubby gives me waaayyy better gifts that I do him. He gives me the one thing no one else can, time at home with my kids. He has encouraged and supported my desire to be the at-home-Momma for years and years. Even when I could have hurried to work as the kids grew, he let me find my own path.

I have worked ... some...off and on. I enjoyed it. It is just difficult to put my heart into a job and still have the energy and spirit to serve my family.

I admire the women, and men, who do it. You are stronger than I.

I want  need my own time. I like having the quiet house after the chaos of sending our brats to school. (It's okay to call them that when they are military kids. I am not criticizing, so no hate mail on that one. Feel free to hate mail me about the vast amount of other things I say that offend you.)

He has served his country since he was a just a teenager. Then, he went and married this high-maintenance Southern Belle. Poor guy. He must have had some inkling that I would be a little tough to handle when we were dating.

But, alas... He gave me that shiny ring.

He signed the papers.

He said "I do". And, he MEANT it.

When he said "for as long as I live", he really meant it. What a brilliantly refreshing concept. A man of his word.

I have put him through the ringer. I try not to... well, most days I try not to. Somedays I am not the best wife. Somedays I qualify for the 'she has gone and lost her mind club'. Then, on rare occasions he gets the idealistic girl he married. Poor, poor guy. He married a complicated chick.

So, as you can tell, my husband deserves a gift.



What do I get a man who provides selflessly to his wife, his kids, his friends and his country?

How can I tell him how much I adore his heart, his conversations and his time?

When I am perplexed, I look in that big ol' book of instructions. 

The Book says I am to love, submit and respect my husband. How do I do that in this situation?

I gave him plane tickets and kicked him out of Japan for a few weeks. 

Wait. What? 

My hubby is a total geography geek. He loves anything and everything that has to do with the study of human, military, and cultural geography. He is fascinated by people, their lands and their customs. He will research their religions and study their family structures. He gets into a zone when he starts to see the relationships between their geography and their traditions come together. 

Here is where we differ. 

I am... less fascinated.

I still really enjoy the learning side of other cultures. 

I just don't necessarily want to visit the entire world. I don't dream of seeing every battlefield, castle or church known to man. I'm good with some great 'tourist traps', a trip to the local grocery store and a stop at the McDonald's (Trust me, McDonald's is vastly different in every country. It's a great way to see the local flavor.)

But, I love my husband. I adore him, even when I want to bonk him upside the head with a balloon. I think he was made for me and I was created for him. 

How do I say thank you, or in this case 'Happy Birthday', to the man I have spent almost 2 decades loving? 

I had to find someway to speak his "love language", as the famous Dr. Chapman would say.

I gave him a trip to Vietnam with decorated Veterans and college students studying military history. He has two weeks to enjoy the wisdom of men who have been prisoners of war. He can soak up all the stories of Vietnam vets who are longing to share their memories, while they can still walk the battlefields they fought on almost 50 years ago. I encouraged, and then encouraged again, my hero to go. Now this trip may not sound like a good gift to you. But, it's not about you. It's about what makes HIM happy. So, off he went to explore and learn.

Then, I did something radical. I went on with life as usual... never-ending homework, way too many soccer practices and the constant line of dishes that mysteriously fill my sink. I fix whatever issues come up, take kids to the various appointments the need and plan a few gatherings in my spare time. I live. I don't hold it over his head that he is 'on vacation' while I am not. That would ruin the gift. 

I am not telling you this story to brag on myself. 

Trust me, I do wrong every day. 

I didn't even come up with the trip. I just heard him talk about it and saw a chance to give him something he would never give himself. 

I am sharing this with you to encourage you to love on YOUR spouse today. 

Come on, we can all think of one or two things that would make our spouse's day better. 

Does he need his clothes taken to the cleaners? His car washed? A love letter left in his dresser drawer?

Did you tell him how much you respect his opinion? Or how much you like it when he holds your hand?

I know marriage is under attack these days. It is hard to be married. Still, it is oh so worth it.

Are you giving your best effort?

Change it up.

Shock him - just enough to make him think, "Umm, now that's the girl I fell in love with!"

Isn't that good for both of you? 

Isn't that effort all you really want from him every once in awhile?

So, dust off your thinking caps Ladies. Start a new 'note' on your iPhone or bring out that list you always carry around. What are some ways you can make him feel loved today? 

A massage? 

A surprise date night? 

Tickets to the game for him and a buddy? 

A round of golf for him and his dad?

I can't wait to hear what cool ideas you come up with. 

So, off you go. Find a little bit of  love and cheer to pass on to that hunk you married. 

Let me go find that John Legend "All of Me" song and get this house cleaned up before my man gets home. He has been away too long. ;)

I promise next blog I will actually talk about Japan ... maybe 

Love to you,

~Aggie Amy